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HopeQuest Family of Supporters:
We are incredibly blessed to be surrounded by an army of God’s People who are rallying around us with prayer and financial support to bring healing to those caught in the struggle of addiction.
We wanted you to have some specific things you could be praying for us and our clients about every month. Currently we have a full house of 17 men and here are a some of their prayer requests: (Names have been changed to protect confidentiality)
I am deeply concerned that I will break my wife’s heart when I do full disclosure. Frankly, I deserve the worst, but I am really, really afraid of hurting her heart.
For the season of life after Trek, moving into a sober-living home. Not forgetting who Christ is and what He’s done for me on the cross.
Pray for strength physically and mentally each day going through the program as I continue to reconnect to God here.
That I trust God with all the major components of my life. In particular, that I can trust God with my marriage
Pray for RF Weekend coming up in June to prepare me and family’s hearts
RF Weekend; Disclosure with my wife; my son who is struggling with not being able to talk to me. Keep a good attitude; Focus on God. Continue to learn what I need to learn.
Pray for my wife that her heart would continue to soften towards me. For my mother and father-in-law to accept their invite to RF and come RF weekend, that it is a powerful, redeeming time for my marriage
Me to lean into and trust God’s grace as I re-engage my life and circumstances back home. To reach out and be known as I bump up against my old patterns and new core beliefs.
My biggest fear is that my heart will soften towards my wife. Please pray for that to happen. I want to be madly in love with her.
We also want to celebrate with you a couple huge answers to prayer God has been doing so far in 2018. He continues to bring us some incredibly talented and experienced staff who have all “hit the ground running” and allowed us to grow, including:
The second huge praise we have to let you know about it this: We have long been dreaming to open our own Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP). Beginning June 4th we are launching the Trek IOP. This program is for those who have completed a short-term residential program and are looking to continue the next step their treatment or who are unable to attend a residential program due to vocational or family obligations. Read more about it here.
Thank you for the support you are to me, our staff and the clients God brings to us. We simply could not do this alone and we covet your prayers this month.
May God richly bless you!
When it comes to addiction, sometimes it seems like the addict becomes the focus and the family gets left behind. One of the places that help support spouses of men who struggle with addiction is Journey. We would like to introduce you to Melissa Haas, as she shares about Journey.
Melissa: “Journey is a safe place for spouses to come and grieve the losses associated with their guy’s sexual addiction, and a safe place to grow in just what God wants them and has for them regardless of what happens in their marriage.
We started Journey in 2001. I needed a group back then, and what I was looking for was a safe community of women who could walk alongside me as I worked through the consequences and the pain of my husband’s betrayal.
Part of Journey is walking through a curriculum that I wrote based on my own experiences. It’s 10 weeks in the first book, written in a format that gives both emotional help and a place for spiritual connection with God.
I also have another option for women who want to continue on a healing, growing journey. It’s called Continuing the Journey, it’s our Journey Two book. And it walks through our own stories, what we’ve come to believe about ourselves, about God, about others, and how those beliefs may keep us from living a fully-devoted relationship and lifestyle with God.
If you decide to come to Journey, one of the things that you will experience is a large group time, where there is either teaching or testimony from a fellow Journey-er. We use, all of our leaders, all our facilitators are peers. They all have experienced being married to a guy who struggles with sexual addiction. So everyone in the room is like you.
After large group time, we break up into small groups, where we process what we’re learning and experiencing through the curriculum. And those small groups are really the place where community happens: spiritual community happens on our journeys of healing.
All of our groups are facilitated by women who have taken their own journeys down this path. They have all experienced sexual betrayal, because of their husband’s sexual addiction, and they’ve all taken a healing journey, and they are all at a place where they want to give back to other women like you.
It’s really inspiring for me and encouraging to me that Father has continually redeemed the pain of my story, of our story, in a way that helps others heal, and it’s my privilege to walk alongside other women on their healing journeys.”
Every two years, HopeQuest has the privilege of playing a part at the American Association of Christian Counselors World Conference in Nashville, TN. With over 7500 counselors and pastors in attendance, it is an incredible opportunity to share what we do as well as build relationships with our current partners as well as new ones.
This year we were reminded again that we live in a culture that aggressively pursues the hearts of people to distort what God created for good. Whether it is through sex trafficking, pornography, serial affairs, or widespread promiscuity to name a few, the attack on the body, hearts, and minds is relentless.
While there, our executive director, Troy Haas and his wife Melissa were able to have Facebook live posts with a couple of our partners who are fighting the same fight.
Undoneredone.com is the story of a couple that divorced over sexual addiction and was remarried six years later! Troy and Melissa caught up with them at AACC for a quick facebook live interview.
Every September, SAMHSA sponsors Recovery Month to increase awareness and understanding of mental and substance use disorders and celebrate the people who recover. This year’s theme is Join the Voices for Recovery: Strengthen Families and Communities. The 2017 theme highlights the value of family and community support throughout recovery and invites individuals in recovery and their family members to share their personal stories and successes in order to encourage others.
Our mission is to help individuals and families impacted by addiction to experience freedom, hope, and life. What makes HopeQuest different? Through a clinically-effective and Christ-centered approach, many people like you are finding the hope and help they need – many for the very first time. With a peaceful, home-like setting, we offer affordable long-term treatment with a relationally-driven approach focusing on core issues. Whether you or someone you love is struggling with alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction or some other life-dominating behavior, we offer professional help in the context of safe spiritual community.
To learn more about HopeQuest and how we serve clients and their families, check out our website at www.hopequestgroup.org or call our main office at 678-391-5950 and ask to speak to our Director of Admissions, Emily Woodfin.
About 3 weeks ago I was sitting in a balcony seat waiting for church service to begin. I am always a little anxious coming to my church, though I wouldn’t describe the anxiousness as a bad thing. It is more about the anticipation of how God will use this time to speak to me. I remember saying to myself, “I wonder if today is the day?”
On cue, a song ripples through the sanctuary engaging both young and old alike. Clearly, the Holy Spirit is touching the hearts and souls of the congregation as they raise their hands and their voices in unison. When the song comes to an end, the campus pastor walks out to welcome everyone and makes a few announcements. As I listen my stomach begins to roll up tight in knots.
After the announcements, the pastor declares, “Today we celebrate life change.” At that moment, I didn’t hear anything else. I knew today was indeed the day. The lights go dim and the video begins. The video features a young woman sharing her story of addiction with drugs, alcohol, and adultery. Her emotions were raw, and her words were authentic. Yet, through it all, she found unspeakable joy and confidence. It is clear she is forsaking those things to follow Jesus. The staff person speaks a few words, then lowers her into the water and out again. Horns blare, confetti cannons go off, and there is a lot of shouting as everyone applauded together. It is an exuberant but beautiful time.
Her story reminds me that what we do at HopeQuest is worth it. Working with people struggling with addiction is hard, draining, and sometimes frustrating. But in the end, new chapters are written, and individuals and families find hope.
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Here at HopeQuest, we value the success of our clients. Recovery is a life-long pursuit. How one begins that journey is very important in laying a foundation for life-long success. We believe that 12 weeks is a worthwhile investment for long-term recovery for several reasons.
We are committed to the recovery success of every participant in the Trek program. We believe 12 weeks best enables each client for the greatest possibility of success as they apply the skills, tools, and habits they have developed during their stay. Above the things they have learned, we want the clients to experience that God is for them.
This is a series of interviews where we introduce you to some of the men and women who serve the clients at HopeQuest. Today we meet Brian C. Bailey, the Campus Pastor / Director of Spiritual Formation for the last four years.
Bryan’s background in a nutshell
Bryan grew up in Texas and New Mexico, receiving three degrees from Texas Tech: a bachelor’s in Corporate Finance, a bachelor’s in Economics, and an MBA in High Performance Management. He planned on becoming an investment banker and senator, “Then Jesus showed up.” After obtaining his Master of Divinity with a focus on Biblical Languages from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, Bryan worked in high school and college ministry until God brought him to HopeQuest.
“When I was in seminary, never in a million years would I have thought that I’d end up working at a rehab! But this is ministry every day, not once a week. I always tell people that ‘Pastor’ is not who I am, it is what I do. Walking with and sitting down with hurting people is pastoring.”
What is the role of faith in an addictions treatment program?
“Do you have to be a Christian to recover? No. Will you ultimately get peace and joy in your life without a relationship with Jesus? That’s a different question. I think most people who want recovery or talk about recovery are really wanting peace. We had a client who had been to 11 rehabs. He said this is the first place that dug beneath the surface both spiritually and clinically.”
What if somebody isn’t Christian? Can they still benefit from the TREK Program?
HopeQuest has served everyone from monks, to atheists, to megachurch pastors, to ex-cons, etc. “People who aren’t Christians are asking the same questions. We’re all searching for peace. Most people walk into the program with a lot of spiritual baggage. Faith doesn’t have to be overcomplicated! I want people to ask the hard questions and have permission to question and wrestle. You will never grow beyond the questions you are afraid to ask.”
“I view our clients as leaders, especially in the environments they will step back into after treatment. That mindset changes how I interact with them. I try to give clients freedom, confidence, and tools to find answers.”
There are other Christian treatment programs out there. What makes HopeQuest unique?
“I don’t have personal experience with other programs so I can’t say. I do know that I don’t focus on religion – I focus on the gospel. Not dumbing down the gospel, but bringing gospel clarity. We are grace-focused and practical, meeting clients where they are at. My guiding philosophy is ‘gospel + safety + time.’ If you remove any of those ingredients, it doesn’t work.”
“I also try to let clients see the human side of pastors. I am not the savior or superhero in their life. You can’t get away with wearing a mask here!”
What about your work do you find most rewarding?
“Seeing clients find hope and have lightbulbs go off. Seeing clients own their own faith. That’s huge. I once had a pastor hug me, sobbing, after class one morning. He told me he has been teaching grace his entire career but only just then came to really understand it. Moments like that keep me going.”
HopeQuest is a fully integrated residential program which is both Christ-centered and clinically-effective. While some programs may have a Christian track, a personal relationship with Christ is central to who we are and what we do.
Many of our clients have tried the spiritual tools available to them but still struggle with their addiction because they haven’t been able to get to the root of the problem.
Here are some ways that HopeQuest invests in the spiritual and Christ-centered piece of recovery:
• Every HopeQuest staff member is an active church member and has a personal relationship with God
• Several on our staff are ordained ministers with Master’s degrees in Divinity and Theology
• Full-time HopeQuest campus pastor on staff is available to clients during the week
• Daily devotions and chapel services
• Weekly church participation
• Each client receives a new, leather bound study Bible
• Clinically-effective, Christ-centered, and Bible-based curriculum
• Primary target not addictive behaviors but the hearts of our clients
• Our church and investment partners invest monetarily and spiritually in every client
• Grace-filled environment where no one is judged or shamed
We would ask you to consider the HopeQuest mission in general. There are many different staff and support roles that need to be filled from time-to-time. It is our desire to identify those whom God is calling to serve with us in our efforts to help individuals and families impacted by addiction experience hope, freedom and life. You can be assured that we prayerfully seek His will throughout our employment process.
You may not be aware, but we value what God can do in the life of those that are held captive by addiction. We value it so much, in fact, that HopeQuest has a full-time Campus Pastor/Director of Spiritual Formation for our TREK Residential Program.
Today, this was a communication piece our Campus Pastor sent out as he challenged our residential program participants in spiritual life:
Good morning gang,
Wanted to give you a heads up on what we did this morning in spiritual life. We showed them this video: http://youtu.be/5oPDcFJk–E
And then I asked the guys “so why would I show you this video and what does it have to do with your recovery?”
I’ve watched time and time again the power of gratitude as clients recover. I challenged them to write five things they’re grateful for today, and then challenged to do five everyday and hang them up. Was shocked at how many guys were in tears… Please keep praying for these men. I love what I sense God doing around here.
Here’s what we’re doing with those:
Our work is greater than just stopping destructive addictive behaviors. We help people do that, but our vision goes far beyond stopping behaviors. It moves into restoring freedom, hope, and life.
We are so excited to announce we will be opening the New TREK Residential Program for Women!
The program is a 12-week, state-licensed program for women held captive by addictions such as drugs, alcohol, or sex addiction. While we had previously admitted female participants in the traditional TREK program, we ceased to do so in March of 2014 for the purpose of developing a program to address the unique and specific needs of women. We are so pleased to share this great news! The new program is gender-specific (women only) and will function independently from our current TREK Program for men. We will have renovated residence facilities, female support staff, and specialized care designed for our ladies. Our Women’s Program will be limited to a maximum capacity of six ladies.
Being clinically effective and Christ centered has it’s challenges. Not from being effective in our approach to treating people held captive by addiction, but by the perception of Christians at times that more spiritual focus and more spiritual discipline is the sole answer to the problem. Sometimes prayer doesn’t fix addiction. Most of the time, it doesn’t. So why do we still pursue being both clinically effective and Christ centered in our approach to treating people?
So yes, we are both clinically effective and Christ centered. God has given us a unique skill to care for the mind and minister to the heart. We aren’t just one or the other, we are both. Our goal goes far beyond the ceasing of an addictive behavior, but to offer Hope and Life as our clients move forward.