In future lessons, we will talk more about the family systems that birthed the Stormy Sues and Susie Sunshines of this world. Although no situation is completely identical, there are striking similarities in the stories of those of us married to sex addicts. Understanding those dynamics is interesting and helpful. Replacing lies with truth, coming to a place where you trust God completely, and experiencing His healing touch in your life can only happen through the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.
Before we look at God’s Word, I want to make one other comment about Stormy Sue. As a Susie Sunshine, I initially had a hard time accepting and relating to the Stormy women God was bringing into my life. I was both intimidated by their outward appearance and shocked by the depths of their fury. Quite honestly I thought that the sinful ways they were expressing anger should be the focus of my encouragement and teaching in their lives. The more I saw into the hearts of various Stormy Sues, however, the more I came to realize that anger wasn’t really the problem. There was something driving the anger that wasn’t touched by my counsel or prayer or Bible reading or even accountability. We’ve touched on the issue already. Stormy women are driven by fear—just like us Sunshines. The nature of the fear, however, is the challenging problem for dear Sue. You see, in order for the Holy Spirit to work in her heart, she must entrust the control of her mind, will, and emotions to the Father. She must deliberately put herself in a submitted position at His feet and relinquish all control to Him. But that is exactly what terrifies Stormy Sue the most—being controlled and being powerless. Do you see the dilemma? The only way healing can come in her life is for her to do the very thing she fears the most.
What then is a Stormy Sue to do? We’ll look at that (later). For now, let’s turn our hearts to the Father.
Colossians 3:1-10 (NASB) If then you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on the earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory. Therefore, consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry. For it is on account of these things that the wrath of God will come, and in them you also once walked, when you were living in them. But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander and abusive speech from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, and have put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge according to the image of the One who created him.
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