For example, …(if a person says), “I feel like I can never count on you,” that was a belief — not a feeling. When someone says a belief about you (disguised by “I feel like” or “I feel that”), you will likely begin to feel defensive, frustrated, and … [Read more...]
We all experience denial as part of the grieving process. Recognizing where we are is the only way we can begin to embrace truth, reality, and God’s healing process in our lives. (Next week) we will talk about walking out of denial and into … [Read more...]
Honesty vs. Hiding Yesterday we dealt with the concept of minimizing. Each of us tends to minimize our failure when confronted with the truth. We joke about the man who buys a Playboy magazine “because I like to read the articles.” Yet, to some … [Read more...]
The tool we use to communicate for connection and healing is called the IFAB Statement — I feel…about…because... When we need to talk about our feelings, we always start with the words “I feel,” followed by a feeling word. Then we use a short … [Read more...]
There is one other major way women experience denial on the journey—they get busy and stay that way. You’ve probably heard of people who lose a spouse and never cry; they just pour themselves into their jobs or a cause or something, staying … [Read more...]
