Controlling is the opposite of trusting. It is often our first reaction to fearful or painful situations, and it is probably the greatest overall challenge you and I will face on this journey. We resist dependency on anyone other than ourselves, but we were created to be dependent, so we end up being dependent on everything and everyone except God.
The walk from bondage to freedom is paradoxical because we must give up being dependent on ourselves (which is bondage) and embrace being dependent on God. When we place ourselves as bondservants in relationship to Him, we actually receive freedom—not freedom to control our destinies, but freedom to not be controlled by our desires and behaviors.
– Troy Haas, First Steps