The tool we use to communicate for connection and healing is called the IFAB Statement
— I feel…about…because…
When we need to talk about our feelings, we always start with the words “I feel,” followed by a feeling word. Then we use a short phrase describing the situation and end our sentence with the reason we feel that way.
I feel ————— (Feeling Word)
about ————— (Situation)
because ————— (Reason)
Yes, it really is that simple.
One word of caution, however. Sometimes instead of using a feeling word, we say things like “I feel like…” or “I feel that…” These statements are really beliefs masquerading as feelings, and they will interfere with emotional connection.
–Melissa Haas, Emotions 101