CONTINUING JOURNEY – WEEK THIRTEEN’S BLOG ON SAFE/UNSAFE PEOPLE
… (They) are not necessarily bad people. And, in some instances, they may even be your friend. They are unsafe because they might encourage you to minimize the problem, run away from the problem, ignore the problem, or fix the problem. You might come away from the conversation feeling you are somehow to blame for your husband’s sin or that you could somehow keep him from sinning again. All of these things short-circuit your healing process, and take valuable energy and time away from progressing on the journey.
…Sometimes “hiding” ourselves means intentionally avoiding an unsafe person. Sometimes we hide by walking away from a hurtful conversation or by limiting conversations to safe topics. In situations which require you to be around unsafe people, being able to set appropriate boundaries with others is the key to guarding your heart.
–Melissa Haas, The Journey: Book One